Who’s Right?

Posted: April 16th, 2009 | Author: Gregg Stutts | Filed under: Other, Truth | 5 Comments »

I was reminded this morning that there’s often no “right” answer.

A friend, who’s developing a logo for our church, sent me several designs yesterday. There was one I liked more than the others. This morning, he sent the links to a number of church websites so I could check out their logos.

Knowing that I, as a 46-year-old, am not the target audience for our church, I showed the various designs to five college girls who were at our home for breakfast. There was one logo we pretty much all agreed on, but in general they liked design elements that I didn’t. I can’t say I’m surprised.

When it comes to the Christian life, there are just as many different preferences, opinions and convictions. The Bible doesn’t clearly address every area of life. In those areas where the Bible is silent, we’re free to develop our own convictions. For example:

I have friends that attend a United Methodist Church and others that attend the Greek Orthodox Church. My church is non-denominational. None of us are right or wrong.

I know Christian women who have had cosmetic surgery. Other women have convictions that would not allow them to do that. What’s right for one person may not be for another.

You may have a conviction that drinking alcohol is wrong. The person sitting next to you at church on Sunday may have had a couple glasses of wine at dinner the night before.

Some families choose to home school their children. Others send their kids to private Christian schools. We’ve always had our children in public schools. There’s no “best” way for everyone.

The problem comes when someone decides their particular conviction or preference is “right”, “best” or even worse, “biblical.” It’s easy then to judge others or try to get them to conform to your conviction. That’s legalism.

You’re not going to agree with everyone in your church or even everyone in your family. Rather than judging or arguing about individual preferences, choose to love and show grace. We’ve got too much to do to get caught up in senseless arguments.


5 Comments on “Who’s Right?”

  1. 1 Lisa said at 8:57 AM on April 17th, 2009:

    I agree, but I must say that I don’t think most people consult God about their choices…just because the Bible might be silent about a particular issue, doesn’t mean God doesn’t have something to say to us about those issues in our personal quiet times. So…at the risk of being dogmatic…say how many children a couple should have. Do people really pray, consult God and His Word about how this should look in their family or do they have two children because they can each have their own room and they can have time to be involved in more things? I venture to say that most people choose convenience and cost over REALLY seeking God, wouldn’t you? So as a general rule, I would sound more dogmatic in telling people that they should “err” on the side of letting God handle that whole area, because so few of us honestly seek God’s will.

  2. 2 Gregg Stutts said at 9:25 AM on April 17th, 2009:

    Lisa,
    I agree that many people are making decisions without truly seeking God, but it’s probably impossible for me to know the who, what and when. Someone may have truly sought God, but how do I know? I think we probably get into trouble when we start assuming we know those answers for others. I’d do better if I was more concerned about my stuff, not theirs.

  3. 3 Ben DeBusk said at 3:59 PM on April 18th, 2009:

    As individuals, I think we need to be clearly invited to speak into others’ lives. Then we should be comfortable providing a biblically-informed opinion on a matter, although falling short of dogma. However, we must be extremely careful giving “biblical” advice to those whom have not asked. Still, I think Lisa is correct in noting that many Believers simply do what’s easy and not what pleases God. I think the church bears a great deal of responsibility in challenging Christians to step up and actually incorporate Scripture in their important decisions. Too many people use the excuse, “I’m just not able to…” God gives the grace and ability necessary to accomplish anything to which He calls us. I think it’s a trap to believe God wants us to be happy and comfortable all the time!

  4. 4 drager said at 10:34 PM on April 18th, 2009:

    I’m shallow. Send me the logo previews.

  5. 5 Dustin Weber said at 11:14 PM on April 18th, 2009:

    I have seen these preferences tear a church apart. I’ve seen friendships and relationships broken because of minor quibbles about stuff that is not directly discussed in the bible or differences in personal interpretations of scripture.

    At the end of the day, I think you just have to step back a second and ask yourself if “winning” that argument with a fellow Christian or Non-believer is really worth it. Sometimes, it’s best to just keep quiet… which is extremely hard for me to do!


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